One of the impediments to changing our fixed ideas is the normal reaction when someone challenges one of our facts. We defend our knowledge or perhaps in the case of an obvious "everyone knows" fact, ignore the speaker/writer/etc. We politely (or not) ignore the message that is contrary to what we know.
It's difficult to escape our defensive reaction, but let me suggest a way to become more "open-minded". While many of us talk about being "open-minded", I'm not sure many of us know what it really means. I suggest that being open minded is to listen to something you know to be wrong or different from what you believe and actually think about why is it wrong. Take a playful imaginative attitude rather than defensive. What would it be like if it this strange idea was true? How would things be different, what would or could I do if this new idea replaced my old idea of how things are? What consequences could there be if I ignore it and it is more accurate than what I know now? This is different than reacting to this new information, and challenging it with all the facts you already "know"
An example from today: Cyprus is getting a bailout. Part of the bailout term is that all bank accounts would be assessed a 6.75% to 9.9% tax. Basically seizing a portion of people's savings. Just yesterday this idea was almost unimaginable. Would the average citizen in the European Union have imagined that their "insured" bank accounts could be frozen and a chunk taken out? If someone suggested it last week, would almost everyone not have argued that this is a far-fetched idea, and given all the quite logical reasons that it would never happen?
My own thoughts on this development BTW is that it is a huge mistake on the part of the EU. Regardless of what happens now, they have added a new "fact" to the world of banking. Regardless of where you live in Europe, or perhaps the rest of the world as well, people will now have a new "fact" - their savings may not be as safe as they had thought. On the other hand it's a great example for this post, to show how a fact - "Savings accounts up to 100,000 Euros are insured and I don't have to worry about it", can be wrong and lead to negative consequences.
The reason for this 5 paragraph preamble is to set you up to try out a new fact and see if you can just play with the idea and see how it fits. See if you can hold off all the obvious reasons why it is wrong and play with the idea. I have a few more of these facts coming up in future posts.
- Everything you know, you learned. This takes a long time to sink in. The depth and reach of this fact will profoundly change the world when it becomes well known and understood.
What do you know and believe about Science, Education, Republicans, Democrats, Minorities, Madonna, the Yankees, Health Care, the Bailout, Economics, Gun Control, Global Warming? Everything you know even: Who are you? What values and morals do you have? What do you like/dislike? What kind of people/friends/ do you prefer? Where do you want to live/travel to? What career do you have/want? What are your good/poor characteristics? Are you "bad at math", is your friend/relative really stupid sometimes? Let me throw in another "fact" here. No one can actually BE stupid. When we say someone is stupid this is what actually is happening: We observe someone in some activity, we have a set of values of how this activity should be performed, we declare that the person has performed the activity in a way that did not meet our criteria of how it should be done. Without going on and on to explain this, you can read more in another post: http://askjim.blogspot.pt/2012/09/happiness-prosperity-part-5.html
What's relevant regarding being stupid is the set of standards you have for every characterization (stupid, smart, attractive, humble, clever...) You "know" what's attractive. Really? Anyone ever disagree with you? Perhaps someone from another neighborhood, city, or country doesn't have the same knowledge of what is attractive? Maybe they "learned" what is attractive from a different teacher. Could the teacher have been movies, TV, magazines, friends...?
So if you're in a playful mood, you can try out this new fact Everything you know, you learned, on anything you "know". How do you know it? If you learned it, when did you learn it? who was the teacher? Where did they learn it?